Being Married to a Narcissist

By Jedidiah McKeehan

I cannot tell you how many times I have consulted with someone on a potential divorce case and they have said something to me like, “You do not understand! I am married to a narcissist! Have you ever done a case against one?”

Yes, I have handled divorce cases with narcissists on the other side. Probably seventy percent of the divorce cases I handle involve a narcissist on one side, or perhaps both sides.

Let’s step back though and define the term narcissist. A narcissist is, “extremely self-centered with an exaggerated sense of self-importance; marked by or characteristic of excessive admiration of or infatuation with oneself.”

After seeing that definition, I wonder whether we all fit it to varying degrees, but it seems pinned as the reason many marriages end.

While you may be married to a narcissist, I assure you that you are still going to be able to secure a divorce and will be able to move on from this relationship whether your spouse qualifies as a narcissist or not. I would suggest to you that it is not worth the trouble of finding out whether they meet the dictionary or medical definition of a narcissist.


Jedidiah McKeehan is an attorney practicing in Knox County and surrounding counties.  He works in many areas, including family law, criminal, and personal injury. Visit for more information about this legal issue and other legal issues.